In general, I think we need to move away from the premise that being a good person is a fixed immutable characteristic and shift towards seeing being good as a practice. And it is a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections. We need to shift towards thinking that being a good person is like being a clean person. Being a clean person is something you maintain and work on every day.We don’t assume ‘I am a clean person therefore I don’t need to brush my teeth.’ When someone suggests to us that we have something stuck in our teeth we don’t say to them ‘What do you mean I have something stuck in my teeth—but I’m a clean person?!’


Jay Smooth in his TED speech “how I learned to stop worrying and love discussing race” (via tropicanastasia)

Jay Smooth almost always a reblog

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Dude nailed it. We all need to work at being good. Even if we think we are.

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The man in ecstasy and the man drowning—both throw up their arms.

-Franz Kafka, Blue Octavo Notebooks (via petrichour)

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Kurt Vonnegut among the Tralfamadorians in color.

I love my boyfriend so much! 

I got to see my best friend today!

After closing tonight I have two days off work!


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You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all a part of the same compost pile.

-Chuck Palahniuk (Fight Club)

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Sent my boyfriend the whiniest message about how much I miss him and how hard it is never seeing each other and how much I hate online communication. He was wonderful about it (of course) and immediately Skyped me and watched me cry for a bit and then made me feel better. Because he’s the best.

But ever since we hung up I can’t stop thinking about how I just can’t keep doing shit like that—to him, to me, or to our relationship. I can’t keep having these meltdowns, like when he left my house last weekend and I started sobbing. For fuck’s sake, he was here last weekend! What am I freaking out over?

I need to get my shit together. My eating has been on point but I need to get more active, and I need to start writing way more. And mostly, I have to adopt a more positive attitude pretty fucking quick. I need to do things with a smile on my face, whether it’s being at work or being at home. I need to hang out with more people and cultivate friendships instead of talking online all day with my best friend, who lives in NJ, and G, who lives in CT. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m super happy with the progress I’ve made. This time last year, I was just getting out of a mental hospital—so I can’t lose sight of how far I’ve come. But I’m slacking in a lot of ways, and it’s only hurting me (and G, when I start bitching out on him for no fucking reason).

So yeah. That’s where I’m at right now. Gotta go make some lists and maybe do some late-night laundry. 

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Bookshop in Eastbourne UK

all im interested in right now is laying in bed and kissing a lot

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I say
we are more
than flesh can hold.

-Laura Grace Weldon, “Awake As You Sleep,” from Verse Daily. (via literarymiscellany)

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I am trying to see things in perspective. My dog wants a bite of my peanut butter chocolate chip bagel. I know she cannot have this, because chocolate makes dogs very sick. My dog does not understand this. She pouts and wraps herself around my leg like a scarf and purrs and tries to convince me to give her just a tiny bit. When I do not give in, she eventually gives up and lays in the corner, under the piano, drooping and sad. I hope the universe has my best interest in mind like I have my dog’s. When I want something with my whole being, and the universe withholds it from me, I hope the universe thinks to herself: "Silly girl. She thinks this is what she wants, but she does not understand how it will hurt.

-THEORIES ABOUT THE UNIVERSE by Blythe Baird (via coffeekaling)

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